A guy does NOT define me....rant.

[sumbirdy]

Ugh....my brothers new girlfriend is making me angry...and a little bit sad for her as well. She called me ugly. Now I'm not conceited, I don't think I'm gorgeous, but I also don't think I'm ugly (see attached pic) However....she's not much to look at. And I mean that in the nicest possible way. Anyhow, her calling me ugly is not actually what got me mad (although it did hurt my feelings) Her reasoning is that if you don't have a boyfriend then you are ugly and depressed. (Now we all know that's not true) She told me that she used to be depressed and ugly just like me until she found my brother, now she is happy and pretty and everyone wants her. And she's not even pretty! How in the world does having a boyfriend turn you automatically pretty? I just don't get it. Anyway, I don't think I'm ugly, and I'm generally a happy person, with or without a guy. Of course I have my days, but who doesn't? So, mom asked her "So, you can't be happy unless you have a man in your life?" Her answer...."No one can" Can you believe that?! This is where I feel very sad and sorry for her. Apparantly she's lacking in the self-esteem department and doesn't know who she is, really. I can't imagine ONLY being happy when I have a boyfriend.
So all you beautiful, single, happy women stand up and be accounted for! Who's with me?

[Catty1]

I'm right there with you, sister!

[CountryWolf07]

Ignore her.

And, for the record.. You're adorable! I can't believe your brother would let her do that - disrespectful.

[Lilith Cherry]

My husband and I both think you are extremely pretty! Certainly having a man does not define who you are or how you look - we are with you too! She is lacking self-esteem if she thinks that way!

[sumbirdy]

I knew people here would be with me!

And to set the record straight....my brother did defend me.

I just can't believe some people think this way. Sometimes it's shocking the way other people's minds work.

Poor girl....I think she's truly confused about how things work. Your looks come from God and your parents, not your SO. And you should be able to find true happiness within.

[joycenalex]

your heart and your actions define you as a human and as a woman. temporary "possession" of another's attention means nothing. i feel very sorry for someone who was raised in the tradition that another can define your worth and value. country wolf is right, ignore this, and wait her time with your brother out....what can she bring to a healthy relationship?

[Maya & Inka's mommy]

Hehe, I am NOT single, but I must say she is so much wrong!!
And, you are NOT ugly, you are even a very beautiful young girl!! You have gorgeous blue eyes and look very pretty to me!!

[beeniesmom]

What a bunch of crap!
She is the ugly one for saying that. What a loser.
Great way to make an entrance in a family. Yeah, let's offend my boyfriends sister. Not very smart is she?

You are adorable. Don't listen to her.
Any guy would be lucky.

I totally agree with joycenalex's comment.

[Medusa]

She's young. If not in years, then in mind and maturity. Forgive her and let it go. She may come back to you one day and admit how wrong she was. But even if she doesn't, you know better.

[Queen of Poop]

Fairly certain she won't be your brother's girlfriend for long. She's not a pretty person period. You on the other hand are adorable and you have your thinking right.

[moosmom]

Queen of Poop said it right. At the rate this immature kid is going, she won't be your brother's girlfriend for long. And for the record, you are very pretty!! She sounds very insecure. Just let it roll off your shoulders and ignore her.

Don't EVER let anyone guy, or otherwise, define who you are. Stand tall and proud of who you are, girl. It took me years to figure that out and that's why I prefer to be by myself. I see what my friends go through with their SO's, husbands, etc. Glad I've got my cats!!

Nothing without a man? What planet is this girl from anyway??? I thought that way for so long after my divorce. It took years for me to finally be happy being by myself.

[pomtzu]

I think you are very pretty!

And I'm happy as a clam - and the only men in my life - are my son, grandson, and dog!!!

[jennielynn1970]

Hrm... how does your brother pick these women??

For the record, you're adorable!

Secondly, I am happy, and I'm cute, and I'm single. So tell Ms. What's her name she's gotta be happy with herself first, and then maybe she'll see herself as pretty as well. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but if you need to feel it in yourself first.

[Taz_Zoee]

Jennie said exactly what I was gonna say. You need to be happy with yourself first. I'm actually surprised she even found a man with that way of thinking.

And I think you are very pretty. The color of your hair and your beautiful eyes.....WOW!!

[mruffruff]

She is so Wrong!!

I haven't had a guy in my life for many years, but that doesn't make me ugly. Try self-confident and choosy.

And you are a very pretty girl. Wish I was that young again.