I just got home at 11:00 pm. Went to work this morning and noticed a voice mail on my phone. A dear friend of mine a young girl in her early 20’s caught her husband cheating again. He is rather a stud I am afraid.
Can we get together to talk she asks, of course I say I will meet you at 7pm at the mall. I race home after work and change cloths.
I meet her for dinner and she told me the whole story, it was just over the phone, they did not meet in person but he has been doing this for 6 months and she does not trust him any more. He says he is sorry but how can she trust him? They have a young child together and if he cheats again she will leave him and take the child with her. We eat and talk and then walk around the restaurant grounds for a half an hour.
Then we drive to her house which is 15 minutes away so I can talk to hubby. I tell him we are going outside for a walk; he knows what is up but bravely walks out with me into the dark warm night. We walk for an hour and he pours his heart out, he is so sorry, knows he messed up. He loves the wife and child, knows he hurt her deeply, won’t do it again. I tell him that I am not angry, that I love them both and he can always call me and talk to me. I tell him this is a sign of a bigger problem and they should go to marriage consuling to find out what is behind his cheating and anger. He listens but will he take my advice, I don’t know?
They have both agreed not to tell her parents, she cannot confide in her mom or dad because then they will make sure the marriage is broken up and husband is never allowed back into the family. I find that so sad. Monica she says I can only confide in you because I know you won’t judge, and of course I won’t. Mistakes happen. I am not mad at either one, just sad that there is so much pain. I love them both and hope they can work this out but certainly understand if she decides to leave him if he cheats again.
As hubby and I are walking (my feet are killing me in these damn heels) his phone rings, it’s the wife. Their precious child requests my presence for a story and a tuck in, we head home.
Child taken care off. I speak to the couple together for a few minutes, give them both my love, remind them of how sorry he is, how good and loving she is and how lucky they are to have each other and to work it out and be happy and to call me if they need me for anything.
I head home, feet aching, heart aching, hoping for the best.
I truly wish that young people would wait till they are older to get married and have more life experience, education, common sense on their side. Getting married at 21 or 22 or 23 or 24 is just too young for most. What is the rush?
Time for bed, thankfully tomorrow is my day off. I already have plans with two friends and am hoping to really enjoy the day. Am also getting my hair cut into a new style and looking forward to that. Small improvement but after today I need a lift.
Good night all.....................
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